Chapter Eleven: Don’t Drown

You ever have that feeling when everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, feels overwhelming? You start to hate your job. Everything relationship is in shambles. You feel yourself outgrowing the life you’ve built but don’t know how to make a change.

We’ve all been there. You just gotta keep swimming. 

I haven’t really slept in two weeks. I toss and turn. I stay up super late. I wake up feeling like Lady Death. I feel like I’m not reaching my full potential at work. And don’t even get me started on relationships. There are people who believe that your dreams and the way you sleep are reflections of how you feel about life and how it’s happening. I’m one of those people. So it all makes sense. 

The other night, in the midst of tossing and turning and going in and out of sleep, I had one single moment of clarity. In that moment of clarity I head a voice, Thee Voice, saying, “Don’t drown.”

I’m a literal and figurative person and like to make the two correlate when possible. So when I woke up the next morning I responded, “But I can’t even swim in real life. How am I suppose to stay afloat in this?”

Trust. 

We have to trust that by making a decision to do or not do something, we are putting ourselves one step closer to our goals. It’s not to say that your decision will always be right. But just by making one, imagine chess pieces moving on a board. Some decisions will be easier than others. 

So trust. Trust that God, Allah, the Universe, has your front and your back. 

You got this!

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Chapter Ten: It’s Not Only About You

Life isn’t linear. There are different directions, dimensions, lives, all working at the same time, in some way with each other.  You cannot possibly believe that the world and its inhabitants are here to observe you, a single being.

Here’s a great way to check yourself in this situation. If someone asks a question or says something and you interject with how it’s relevant to you, every time, even when your response isn’t warranted, you need to reevaluate the way you see your position in life. 

I’ve encountered countless people who do this and honestly, they have all been miserable. They are constantly trying to force everything and everyone to revolve around them, and something on the inside fractures when they see that not happening. 

Stop working against yourself. 

You have to interact with the different spaces you find yourself in. You have to learn to care for others, outside of yourself. There is a time for everything. A time to be selfish (in relation to putting your self care above the needs of others because you need to get yourself together first) and being self-less. 

Think about that. We are quick to get angry when things don’t go out way and slow to rejoice when things do. That’s because we are always expecting the worst. Expect nothing but the best and rejoice either way because something greater is always in the mix. How do you expect to handle huge blessings if you can barely handle small ones?

Life isn’t only about you, it involves you. Instead of focusing on the first part of that sentence, focus on the second. Figure out how to work with it. Figure out how to procure the best from every interaction. It doesn’t have to be tangible. It could be a lesson, a new way of thinking, a transference of bomb energy. 

“What you create for you, no one can take from you. -Jhene Aiko

Create your life. Manifest your destiny. Work with the world to make that happen.