Think about the last time you told your story. Think about the last time you tried to explain yourself. Think about the last thing you did and why.
Did any of those situations include additional details using the word “but”?
My god grandfather was a great man. I’m constantly reminded of him and how everything he taught me applies to every aspect of life. The past week I keep thinking about his lesson on the word “but.”
“But” cancels out everything you said that came before it. “I wanted to help you, but I had to work.” “I wanted to do the right thing, but I was afraid.” In the same light people say, “I’ve struggled a lot, but God got me through it all.”
No matter what your intentions are, using that interjection cancels out whatever you meant to do or say.
I can’t even pretend like I haven’t tried to find a way around this.
I’ll keep it short and sweet this week. Cancel out the negative, shed light on the positive.
When you’re thinking of what to do or say and you find that you’ve hit the “but” part of it all, think about what you’re really setting out to accomplish. Try using the words “and” or “instead.” And as you find different words, realize the transformation being made. You’ll end up transforming the way you think, which will reflect in actions, and in words. It’s a great way to check in with what really matters, and who.